By Dr Matthew Berryman
Following the online campaign started by Jennifer Li to #takedownjulienblanc, I’ve started looking into the world of “Real Social Dynamics” (RSD), the company Blanc is a part of, and I’m highly disturbed by what I have found. I’m sympathetic to young men who need confidence building and dating tips. I was a shy nerdy young man too. But there’s a massive world of difference between genuine advice and what RSD has to offer. It goes well beyond one video of Blanc doing his infamous “head on dick” sexual assault of Japanese women.
It includes everything from a culture of objectification of women through to making fun of people with disabilities (‘retarded’ in RSD language) to pick up.
The co-founder of RSD is Owen Cook, known as RSD Tyler. Here he appears to admit to raping a woman.
Here he is making a racist slur in a nightclub.
Here he is joking about killing a cat and then sexually assaulting its corpse.
Rape culture is part of the forum, from discussion of rape vans through to this comment on their forum – a sick attempt to justify rape.
“They dream about this. They wanna be tied up and fully succumb to your aggressive masculinity. They want you to push them against the wall, rip their clothes off, put her in a submissive position and call her bitch, slut, whore until their skull can’t take it anymore…”
“See as much as women wanna be raped, they also want to be made feel beautiful.”
It’s deeply disturbing how many members that RSD have, and their influence. Last I checked, their insider Facebook groups (now made private) had over 300 members for Brisbane and over 1000 for Sydney. RSD Tyler’s YouTube channel has over 95,000 subscribers, and RSD Julien’s over 43,000.
RSD Alex is an RSD trainer on the Gold Coast. One of his associates is Adrian James Holt, aka Adrian Van Oyen, a candid camera/prank ‘comedian’ with a history of harassing people on trains. Julien Blanc may have been deported but Holt and other Australian men continue to foment and spread pick-up culture activities here.
Some people must find this amusing as he has over a million subscribers. His method has since been adopted as a pick-up tactic by RSD members. Following his train videos video, Lipton decided for a reason I cannot fathom, to pay Holt, who they describe as a “hilarious YouTube sensation” for an advertisement for iced tea.
Shortly after that, in November 2013, Holt released this video where he tries to use sexual assault as a ‘pick-up’ strategy.
Not only is this totally unacceptable and unempathetic, it’s also a crime. I have alerted Queensland Crimestoppers to this with a report made yesterday. Astoundingly, the original copy of this video has had over 2.8 million views.
I’m not the only one who finds this disturbing. Only two months ago he was accused of “exposing his penis to distressed-looking women in public.”
This whole misogynist “pick-up” agency material doesn’t just lessen women, but it lessens men, and it has to stop. I’m not saying this because I am of the “extreme left” (as one RSD troll said)—I’m just slightly left of centre, and this transcends politics, anyway. Nor is it because I’m pretending to be a nice guy in order to get laid—I’m happily married—it is important to respect others anyway, which may indeed get you noticed by women, but that’s besides the point. Nor is this about’ group think’, I’ve obviously thought about these issues on my own and then decided to campaign. This is all about respect and consent. It’s not hard to understand.
If you are a young man seeking advice, then don’t get it from Real Social Dynamics. There are proper counselling services out there, if you can’t get good advice from mates, or asking your mum (yes, put embarrassment aside for a few minutes, she has advice for you), or even a girl who you are just friends with. Yes guys can be just friends with a girl, and it’s how I got some of my best dating tips.
Dr Matthew Berryman is a loving husband and a dad to two daughters who he adores. By day he works in IT, at night he campaigns to make the world a better place.
52 Responses
Thank you. This is a great article.
Julien’s actions are indefensible; he sought to create outrage on a massive scale by creating a predatorial alter-ego for social media consumption. Also, his video on Japan is obnoxious.
I guess he didn’t believe that people would take him seriously as he exaggerated it to what he thought was unbelievable heights (one of his tweets include ‘ my child will learn to read before my wife’ … which is blatantly him being facetious)
Otherwise, your campaign against the rest of them is uninformed and unreasonable.
For example, posting the Australian prank artists and calling them harassers completely overlooks every other pranks show that influenced their acts, including jackass. In what sense was there assault? Assault means the immediate apprehension of harm? His humor is mere cheekiness.. he’s not a predator
When it comes to the nude prankster (which most people laugh at in the video, btw.. you know,’ the victims’) I can’t help that you’re taking it out on him that he’s simply more confident than you, which is why it comes off as obnoxious to you.
you remind me of the guy in the white shirt in this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDy08-RphI8
Wow. You taken so much out of context, I don’t even know where to begin.
The humor may be a dark (for example the retard video) but it’s nothing worse than what you see on stand-up comedy. Also, most of this stuff is meant for a specific audience.
Also, most of the ‘sexual assault’ is just people having a good time. Look at the many of the women’s reaction. They smiling 🙂 . You should too 🙂
In order for sexual harassment to happen . . .there needs to be someone who is harassed.
And that rape admit video . . . it was clearly not stated that she said no, or fought back. You have no idea what happened. And to accuse someone of rape carries serious legal consequences. Ever heard of libel or slandar?
Look, I seen your other posts, and you are obviously a smart guy, too smart to be making these mistakes. If I were to guess, I would say that your emotional motivation towards this is jealously. Perhaps you’re not satisfied with the physical appearance with your wife, and she doesn’t quite live up to your high school crushes? Meanwhile we’re banging them left and right and you can’t stand it.
If that’s the case, then it’s something you need to work out between you and a therapist. Not on those who strive towards improving the lives of others. They have helped so many. And instead of focusing on helping people, they have to focus on these bitter feminists who just want to ruin everything.
no one is forcing consent you absolute moron rsd is primarily self development.julien went to far and he is paying for it.
please grow a brain. if you want to police the world become a politician
This is a shit article.
RSD has brought tons of value and offers deep insight into how to be a better lover and be really attractive to girls.
Your suggestion of ask your mum or friends is pointless, even a naturally good guy can’t properly explain what he is doing.
I think you guys have completely missed the point. Focusing on the bad, ignoring all the good and their main points.
I have a girlfriend now my 2nd long term relationship 3 years. Its good to work on and develop yourself.
Jennifer Li is pointing the finger whilst we’ve discovered she’s racist towards white people.
You talk about making the world a better place yet you’re shaming a guy who is and has done so much to help people and offer value.
See the bigger picture.
Guys, you have to remember these women are extreme radicals and do not represent the viewpoint of high quality women. I repeat: They do not represent the viewpoint of high quality women.
True story. I mean some hot girl just wrote on my friend’s Facebook mocking feminists.
When you posted the video of Tyler basically admitting to rape, did you not hear the part where he said “she got into it” ?
You women are psychotic nuts. and honestly you can say whatever you want to me because I have tons of hot girls around me that are 5,000 times prettier than you and also way more intelligent and fun to be around.
That said, yea Julien is a dumbass for starting all this but hey his loss for whatever happens to him. I don’t condone his actions at all, nor would I ever suggest anyone do that in public.
I don’t move girls faces to my crotch, I move my crotch to their face, but usually not until they’re over my house and we’ve at least made out. And guess what. They always laugh!
How is Jennifer Li being racist towards white people hahaha OMG GTFO
Oh look, what a surprise… All the men have come to the rescue with such intellectual arguments as “It’s a joke! Lighten up!” “RSD is about dating getting girls to like you” and my favorite, “You must be jealous because your wife is ugly.”
Seriously people. I’m with him. He has daughters and he wants them to be surrounded by decent, genuine and respectful men. I do too and I want my little sister, my cousins and my mother to be to be as well. Why, because that is how every human being regardless of the sex, race, age etc deserves to be treated. Behaviour and tactics that RSD promotes is everything but respectful, decent or genuine.
One has to wonder just what kind of person is made “better” by learning how to manipulate women. Who pays money to sit in a room and listen to a mysogynist brag about emotionally scarring people’s daughters?
Julien and RSD are not the problem. They are the symptom. The problem is the audience – people prepared to pay money to learn the “secret” of getting laid, as if the whole idea is some kind of game. The whole technique simply capitalises on the low self-esteme that many women already harbour – because of myaogynists and pornography. It promotes behaviour that I doubt any of these men would approve of in the context of their own daughter.
I guess, “develop a mutally respectful relationship” just doesn’t sound appealing. At least, not to a room full of dateless pornography addicts. At least RSD gathers them together and labels them. Any police investigation into accusations of rape will presumably check whether that accused has paid money to learn the “art” feom RSD videos, social media or seminars.
Blogs like this remind us that there is still so very much to do to protect our daughters and to raise our sons to respect others – particularly women.
That such an organisation exists is appalling. But an organisation like this (and I’m confident there would be many others) can only exist if there is a market… and this is what concerns me most.
To see so many thousands of people who “like” and “follow” these people – people who are so debased in their thinking that they feel justified in violating the rights of others (particularly women) – is a terrible indictment on our society.
It is tremendous that we have seen Julien Blanc leave our country. This is a genuine win. However, this article leaves it all too clear that there are thousands of people who are our neighbours, co-workers, and perhaps even relatives who hold views that are repugnant.
Organisations like RSD, and people like those employed by it or patronising its services, present a clear threat to the physical and emotional safety of our daughters, and the psychological safety of our sons.
I’m adding one more comment… I hadn’t read the previous comments from several “men” on this page.
These “men” suggest that a guy exposing himself to an unsuspecting woman is funny – and because they laughed they didn’t mind it. Perhaps these men are unfamiliar with research that shows people smile because they are embarrassed and nervous (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2701206/).
These “men” also downplay the seriousness of rape. It’s not funny. It’s not “joke” material.
So much more work needs to be done before the world is a safe place for our daughters. These “men” are all the evidence we need.
Oh look, what a surprise..a woman finds RSD disrespectful. This guy Berryman has a major confirmation bias on RSD. He’s literally only looking for the negatives and ignoring ALL of the vast majority of the content’s positives. He is someone who does not know what we’re about. I bet he hasn’t even looked at the countless success stories on the website.
Unbelievable that there are white knight rape apologists attempting to run you over the coals for simply stating truths. Although it should be hardly surprising. These “men” you covered and their followers are bottom of the barrel and so of course they would think a man exposing himself or “joking” about forcing himself on women are “funny”. They don’t for one second think of how they would feel having a naked guy rub against you or try and force their head towards someone’s crotch. They just think about how “evil” women are because they don’t get laid. Pathetic. I’m there with you; I’m just going to keep reporting these creeps and doing whatever else I can to stop the spread of their infectious message, loser,horny, virgins be damned.
Hi RSD defenders. I don’t think you get the point. There is no justification for sexual assault, no extra context that will magically make it better, and if you want to complain about edits then can you please make sure the full versions are restored—I have tried to include full videos wherever possible, and you have to seriously question why RSD have been taking down dozens of videos. Yes I appreciate the cat rape story is intended as an analogy, however if you find killing animals funny I think you need professional help.
Captain Durr: I have looked through over 20 videos so far and a lot of forum posts. There is some general pop psychology in some that’s of questionable value—I think guys are much better off going to someone with actual. But there is a serious cultural issue of misogyny and sexual assault that’s there. You’re much better off looking elsewhere for advice.
Kiara: yes I do want my daughters to grow up in as safe as an environment as is possible, and I’m also writing this in the hope that it makes the world a slightly safer place for all women and men. Thank you for your comments.
Dr Coulson – thank you for that article.
It would surprise and appall me that these boys are leaping to the defence of RSD (while also putting down women by slinging around the word ‘feminist’ as if it’s a bad thing; look it up guys, it just means the person believes in equality of gender, not that she wants to burn her bras, be a lesbian, or crush men under her stilettos). Unfortunately, there will always be boys with these childish, ignorant mindsets.
It’s laughable that they think that the author of this article has no sense of humour / is jealous of these RSD goons. He has no reason to be jealous or think he is in any way lacking in comparison to these lower life forms. He has correctly pointed out that the ‘teachings’ of RSD are disturbing, unacceptable and misogynist. I would go further to also label them as pathetic and revealing of a very insecure group of boys who have not yet learnt how to speak to women as fellow human beings.
If I could get rid of every single person who believes / endorses the values of RSD, I would definitely be making the world a safer place for mothers and daughters everywhere.
Rest assured that if any of these ‘tricks’ or ‘tips’ are attempted on me or a loved one, I will not be smiling.
I have spent a lot of time in the past few weeks viewing RSD videos, reading comments and articles. It all just makes me want to cry. Tears of pure anger and frustration. How do you explain to someone that thinks it’s all a light-hearted joke the inherent misogyny that frames RSD and PUA? How can they not ‘get’ that the so-called ‘game’, the language, the rhetoric, the assumptions, the very premise is so offensively misogynist? How can they not see the complete denial of women’s sexual agency? I have no words for the complete hopelessness it makes me feel.
Hahaha you guys are losers. Get a sense of humour you pussies. You guys cry more than 2 year olds.
I know both Julien and Owen very well. Julien’s ideas and twitter feed are indefensible, as stated before, and he is reaping the whirlwind. There isn’t, however, a culture of rape that surrounds RSD or the pickup community, and you are simply jumping on the bandwagon of people who take snippets off the internet to make the case that it is. Posting a Youtube video with the title “RSD Tyler admitting to rape” is not right, and you know it. The fact that you can just toss out an accusation like that without actual evidence, or a coherent admission of guilt shows that you are reasonining through your emotions, and not through logic. If I saw that post on the RSD forum, of the guy who is saying women want to be raped and called slut whore and bitch at the same time, I would think the guy is creepy. Why not try to actually use some independent thought, examine the totality of the culture, and then see if you come up with the same conclusions. A lot of us didn’t like what Julien wrote or tweeted. This mob mentality, which only sees things in black and white, and fails to make discrepancies, doesn’t make your arguments stronger, it only weakens them.
This is very disturbing and encourages men with poor selfesteem and social skills to attend these seminars. Why else and who else would go? The only people benefiting is RSD who are making money. Someone commented on “succeeds stories”….. but at whos expense?…. Women’s expense. Women deserve respect and this encourages disrespectful, discusting and at times illegal behavior.
We can’t pretend the online world is not the real world. It is and we have laws. There people need to be help accountable. The naked Brisbane man exposing himself for instance.
As for “it’s a joke” or “they were laughing”…. think of all the people they assaulted or harassed that they did not add to their videos?
Imagine if you saw a video about a man encouraging other men to use these tactics on unsuspecting Men in your community…… maybe even you? And it was actually happening….. and there was videos on YouTube. Maybe people you know. No you would be horrified and outraged. Then imagine if they were bigger and stronger then you. Scary.
Promotion of behavior like this is very dangerous for women in our community and we need to say it is not ok.
IAmAPotato, John Cook, mike, Chris, Alexander Rose, captaindurr : all of you need HELP
Typical mansplaining from male rape apologists who continue to demand their male pseudo sex right to females of all ages. Those male rape apologists all parrot the same old male misogynistic lies because they have to deny they are all women-haters who view and enact their arrogant male belief females exist merely to be males’ disposable sexualised commodities.
Note these ‘people’ are males not unnameable entities but naming men as men is taboo.
The reason why RSD is so successful is because innumerable males continue to believe in their innate male sex right to female bodies and male sexual predation on females is not a crime according to these boys. These male sexual predators are not ‘losers’ – they are cunning male sexual predators and this is why they attend RSD events because it is all about the ‘bros condoning other bros. male sexual predation.’
The primary reason why RSD exists is because it reinforces male pseudo sex right to females and mens’ Male Supremacist Legal System condones and justifies this vile male created money making women-hating enterprise. Remember if males aren’t the ones being subjected to male sexual violence then the issue isn’t real and important to men. Male violence against women is a non-issue according to those male RSD supporters/attendees.
It is not ‘people’ who are supposedly smiling according to malespeak interpretation – it is women not men. Men have for centuries declared their male experiences/interpretations are the generic human standard and yet again men are claiming they know what women experience and hey presto it is always what men claim women want – which is to be subjected to sadistic male sexual violence because male eroticisation of male sexual violence against women reinforces the male perpetrators’ feelings of sexual power and pleasure over a supposedly dehumanised female commodity.
Women and girls do not exist for males to sexually prey on and males do not have the innate right to demand sexual access to any female. News flash boys – being male does not accord you the innate male pseudo right of sexual access to any female any time! Women are autonomous beings not males’ disposable/interchangeable masturbatory objects.
Brilliant article, Dr Berryman. As a young woman I take heart in knowing there are more men like you around. As witnessed recently, true self-respecting and women-respecting MEN are coming up out of the woodwork thanks to the RSD situation. It’s so very saddening to see a few boys defend someone as poisonous and predatory as Julien Blanc. Julien obviously has a deep hatred for women, evident in his material and that of his colleagues. It’s such a shame that his desperate followers have become so convinced by his marketing tactics promising sex-god status that they neglect to see the ultimate damage and danger lurking in his so called ‘advice’. Julien and the RSD crew prey on the vulnerable: insecure guys with little to no experience or success with women, craving for connection with the opposite sex. What Julien and his posse fail to even remotely grasp is the fact that women are actually people with equal status to men who deserve to be treated with the same respect, love, and dignity, and given the same rights. Guys simply need to ask themselves, ‘If a woman did the things Julien and RSD recommend to me, would I like it? Would I respond positively?’ They will find that the answer is no. Why? Because humans aren’t play things. None of us exist solely for the gratification of someone else. Julien Blanc fails to recognise that. He whole heartedly believes when it comes to the dating ‘game’ the sole purpose is for a guy to ‘get laid’ and ‘bang as many chicks as he can’, after forcing their face into his crotch, of course. Forget mutual respect and equality in relationships, Julien Blanc cares only for his own orgasm, ego, and bank account. Does it really take men becoming fathers to recognise this, grow a backbone and speak out?
Note that at present all of the Real Social Dynamics video copies are down as they have filed what I believe to be a vexatious copyright claim in order to hide their misbehaviour. I have filed a counter-claim for fair use, and I thank the RSD defenders above for their comments demonstrating both an example of the commentary, which supports the fair use claim, as well as the importance for the commentary of reproducing the videos in full, where possible.
The only thing this article has proven is how stupid you really are.
Don’t be a moron, you violent Nazi. Julien doesn’t harass or harm women, because they ENJOY his assertive masculinity. A little newsflash for you, in a post-Fifty Shades of Grey world: women LIKE assertive masculinity, the problem is that you’re not aware that being physical with a woman is ONLY assault if she doesn’t want/like it, and Julien is a pick-up artist who spends his life training how to make women happy, and so HE can actually pull off being physical right off the bat. If YOU were to try that, it would immediately result in being slapped or arrested because you do not have the confidence/experience to handle it properly, and thus would come off as the needy creeper you are.
Furthermore, nearly ALL sexual initiations are based on a degree of force. Just going up to a woman at a bar and talking to her, if she is initially uninterested, is a form of sexual harassment, since you are forcing the woman to have a conversation with you that she does not want to have. However, as is often the case, the woman might actually start to LIKE you after a few minutes, and she’ll be GLAD you initiated / imposed yourself into her reality despite her initial resistance. FURTHERMORE, many women like to play hard to get, which is a way of deliberately FAKING resistance to a man to see if he will assert himself onto her anyways, as a test of confidence and masculinity. In such cases, women WANT a man to be assertive the way Julien is.
If you truly cared about women, you would consider what THEY want, and many of them want a man with extreme amounts of confidence, something you do not have, but that Julien does, and thus he can provide that to fulfill women’s desires. Stop being so misogynistic and anti-women, and start thinking about what WOMEN want, and not just what YOU want, you misogynistic pig.
Also I LOVE how you class all this as rape. The girls are HAVING FUN YOU IDIOTS. RSD does not promote rape culture you fools if that was the case they’d have a LOT of rape allegations against them dont you think? You people aren’t to even be reasoned with! Tyler is right you idiots are so far socially conditioned there is absolutely no hope you pitiful fools!
Courtney, thank you for your comments. I don’t think it takes, nor should it take, having daughters (or other female family members) to realise that one should respect one’s fellow human beings. Having daughters has, however, made me thought more deeply about these issues, however, and has made me more vocal on this and other issues affecting the world we all share.
After viewing extensive amounts of “in-field” videos from RSD my take is that they are revealing of a societal double speak when it comes to female sexuality.
Nobody here can respond to the fact that in all those videos in full context, whether you or I like them or not, that the women consent. Patriarchy has tried to control female sexuality for millennia by inserting and imposing its values and judgements on a women’s free choice. This was not only in relation to entitlement to their bodies, but also about judging who it was ok for them to sleep with, and what is proper for a woman to like and not like. Misogyny will be diminished with once the debate stops about what is ok for women to choose for themselves sexually. Isn’t that what the sexual revolution was about in the ’60’s?
The consent referenced above in RSD’s videos are not just about smiling. In many still available videos women respond by saying “You’re going to f– me hard, right?” Other videos these guys tell the women they are PUAs (and the woman still chooses to be with them or to have an open relationship). I’ve seen videos where the RSD instructors tell the men to be honest about their intentions and the extent of relationship they want. I have not seen any of them directly advocate lying or manipulation.
Although I don’t generally like what Julien does I also did not feel it was my place as a man to judge those women’s choice for them. You can try to tell all women what to like and not like. Doing so with your daughters only risks them hiding what they are doing if it disagrees with your values and morals. I prefer to tell my daughter, once she comes of age, that it’s her choice, only identifying potential risks, and keeping lines of communication open if anything does come up. I am by no means going to dictate what is OK for my daughter to choose sexually by imposing my morals onto her.
On top of that, with being so judgmental, Matthew, after admittedly only watching 20 videos, you should tell your readers that ethically you should disqualify yourself as therapist for any of these men. I also find it ethically questionable for you in your professional position to insinuate at all to anyone you don’t really know that they should try conventional therapy. I also take personal umbrage with your assessment of RSD’s psychological content as pop psychology of questionable value. I find that RSD has appropriately disseminated my concept of Self-Actualization, do some really great exposure type of techniques with men which no traditional professional would be able or willing to do, have provided some brilliant insight into the psychology of non-verbal communication, as well as provided some amazing applied psychology (which you might see if you could put your own personal values and morals to the side in conducting a more objective observation).
As for the accusation of assault and rape… If you are speaking on behalf of any woman who has come forward, definitely don’t identify her, but please let people know that you’re speaking for a woman who has been on the actual receiving end off of this. Otherwise all it seems is that you are speaking for yourself and some women who have not experienced this from RSD (and probably never would because those guys are experienced enough and actually teach explicitly to back off if a woman seems uncomfortable at all). These guys have travelled the world a hundred times over the past 10 years and I have yet to hear of any charges or crimes in any of the multiple countries they have been to repeatedly. If you don’t like what they say, well, I get it. To make glib humor about rape or assault is definitely dark and I don’t personally care for it. But in viewing Julien’s inflammatory talk it is clear he is being sarcastic and aiming to intentionally incite an emotional reaction for attention and publicity. If you feel insulted it is probably because it is satire geared toward what some people’s perspective of extreme feminism’s insistence on political correctness represents. Just because it does not agree with your opinion does not mean that it does not qualify as free speech, at least in the United States.
I’m surprised someone who pretends to be a deceased psychologist, who overlooks crimes, including flashing women as featured above, and who recommends the unqualified RSD over qualified professionals as I recommended (not pretended to be), can even begin to talk about ethics.
Julien Blanc is a misogynistic, dangerous animal and I would be overjoyed to see him dragged by his dick by a horse and carriage through a very public place until it’s ripped off and he bleeds out.
Um, just personally, I can’t say I would find being randomly throttled or having a dick shoved in my face when walking down the street particularly enjoyable. Clearly his mummy didn’t give him enough cuddles as a kid or maybe his disgusting views were brought on by a case of social conditioning – maybe daddy beat mummy and Julien grew up thinking it was okay to treat women like dirt. I don’t really give a fuck. All I know is that he is a monster and women are LESS SAFE while he and his loyal followers are breathing oxygen.
He needs to be stopped before he brain-washes any more men. I want to see him in prison – hopefully being treated by other inmates the way he advocates treatment of women 🙂
Sexual violence and abuse of any kind against an innocent woman is NEVER EVER justifiable. If you think it is acceptable, then I urge you to seek immediate help.
And finally, to all those men who are minimising the seriousness of Julien’s message – you are a disgrace and Darwin would be turning in his grave right now.
Wow! We are the fools! I actually thought this kind of offensive behaviour only came from criminals seems I was way wrong. Do you guys defending Julian just have super small penises or something or just basically aggressive. I’m sure there are girls who enjoy your behaviour and we have names for them too!
Satirical !!! Is that a new word for being a rapist ? I’m confused …,,,, oh no hang that’s you guys , delusional idiots who will end up alone ! Thank god!
Jordan you are a moron
Alexander rose women who don’t like cocky arrogant racists does not make them feminists
Men are simply just vile creatures.
All a man defines himself with is his penis, that’s all he loves and his only goal in life is how to utilise his penis the most. Men are nothing but free prostitutes, every single one of them would love to become a hooker but because women can have them for free they are can’t make it as prostitutes. These men have no self respect, no dignity and morals, they are simply proud whores and their goal in life is to become a whore.
But I do owe a lot to these men because if I talk about how vile a man is to women, women normally jump the their defence. Suddenly a man as described in this article pops up and unites women and breeds more feminists. Every woman in this world should be a feminist, it is not about hating men but at least understanding the danger of a male.
I don’t see what wrong here. Think Julien and Jordan are perfectly correct. Only issue is that they are in the wrong place and wrong society. Think they’d be better suited practicing their skills in Taliban or ISIS strong holds.
Jordan I think the question you should ask yourself is ” would julien’s behavior be acceptable to you if he pulled this on your sister or daughter?”
Men all over the world want to be prostitutes, paying money to attend seminars on how to be a free prostitute. The only goal a man has is to be a whore. The thing you men need do not understand is you will bring yourself much misery.
Men you are more than just a bit of penis, you also have a brain and not just a penis, utilise the brain as much as you would love to utilise that penis of yours.
What surprises me the most about the comments on this article, is that the men who think RSD is a good thing are convinced they are onto something. They believe that “success” is about “getting laid”. We have a history full of great men like William Wilberforce, Martin Luther King, and Nelson Mandela, risking their lives, so that others might live a life of freedom, while the RSD movement settles for “getting laid” by thousands of women as a life well lived. Come on men we are better than this!
http://www.bustle.com/articles/48227-buzzfeeds-video-drinking-in-your-20s-vs-drinking-in-your-30s-is-a-hilarious-side-by-side-comparison?utm_source=FBTraffic&utm_medium=tnight&utm_campaign=CMfacebook
I agree that julirn blanc needs to be taken down
and these last two bozos need to be taken to jail.
but just cause some of these pick up dudes make out with girls does not mean they are assaulting them
go to a 1 min 30 seconds in the above skit.
is that guy assaulting a woman? NO
unfortunately the back lash from this is going to keep people even more disconected from each other.
I blame the pick up community for starting with good intentions but getting way off track.
You boys keep using the word “feminist” – that word does not mean what you think it means. (http://static.squarespace.com/static/537e0722e4b0c3338dfc5521/t/53dd4a9ae4b01c361c9810b4/1407011496490/question-31842991.jpeg)
Educate yourselves. I’ve looked it up in the Oxford dictionary for you:
(1) feminist (noun): A person who supports feminism.
(2) feminism (noun): The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
–I want a man with confidence, yes. And with this confidence comes the quiet, secure knowledge that he doesn’t need to degrade or objectify women. This aforedescribed man is not a unicorn or ‘unrealistic’ – he exists, I’ve met him, and more boys should aspire to be such men.
The concept of “free speech” does not protect you from the CONSEQUENCES of your speech – remember that.
In all the videos the women do not consent I am so incredibly angry at the men condoning this behaviour. Women are being violated and it’s not funny it’s not ok and it’s nothing to do with feminism it’s men treating women like an object to be used and they can leave that women scarred. Get over yourselves and your pathetic agenda if you want sex get it honourably with a woman’s true consent not by rape sexual assault and sleazy tactics.
Real substantive response Matthew. Good show… Keep fomenting conflict and hatred toward your cognitive bias. Who would want to identify themselves when all your bunch does is lash out and make criminal accusation to anyone who comments with a dissenting opinion? None of you are able to have a rational discussion.
There are many women you will have to shame for their sexual choices before they movement. Many women, including my wife (who will read this so you have an open forum to insult her intelligence by trying to tell her what she should think as well (who I have a happy monogamous relationship with btw)) do like RSD, the women who attend their seminars (as well as female PUAs- I guess not only men are disgusting creatures as the above bigoted statements allude to- (ah, Julien’s satire continues to reveal more and more). There is much more to RSD than is being shown. Anyone who has even just watched the hundreds of free videos knows that. If Julien meant the idiotic things he was saying I don’t truly believe any woman would have ever chosen to be with him. That belief of yours betrays more the opinion you have of women, which is also misogynistic.
Free speech does not protect anyone from the consequences of it. Julien is experiencing the consequences. But until there are actual criminal charges from a woman who has been on the receiving end of this you are on nothing more than a modern day witch hunt. If you think the above videos are enough for a criminal prosecution I’d love to see the looks on your faces when the full videos are brought as evidence that contradict everything you are so certain about.
It’s a shame that PU has been tarnished with this brush as those who are involved with it know how much of a positive impact it has had on their lives. Look, there is no denying Julien has done wrong here, he put a controversial video of himself out to get a reaction, that was edited specifically to get a reaction…which it did..Job done! People in the PU community know RSD and PU in general are about helping guys improve themselves and NOT harming women. No-one in their right mind, especially someone part of a fortune 500 company who publishes videos every week would TRULY advocate abusing women. Now it doesn’t matter how much we try convincing people that this is the case, the masses are just going to think what they want to think as they will now only focus on the negatives. I would suggest other guys in PU don’t even bother trying to convince or defend the situation anymore as we would be fighting a losing battle. We all know that PU has never been accepted by the mainstream any way and this is just the story the mob mentality has been waiting for. Also we have to accept that Julien was in the wrong here and so we would be foolish to get upset over people not understanding the true context of the video or his work in general when it was made to shock people in the first place.
What’s even worse and unlucky for Julien and RSD is that it fell in the lap of Jennifer Li , who if any of you bothered to watch her videos is going through some sort of racial identity crisis. The girl clearly has some racial issues towards specifically white men; she even says in one of her videos “I just don’t trust white people”. She wanted to find someone to turn her antagonism towards…and she did. Julien may as well handed himself on a silver platter. Look if she really was a fighting a good cause about harassment towards women then I’d be a supporter of it too, but I just don’t think this is the case. And no not because I am a follower of PU but because I am looking at this from a different view point and not just as a sycophant to a cause. Now I understand a lot of you will probably jump to her defence which is cool, I get that. Who wouldn’t?, especially when on the outside she appears to be standing up for a good cause right?but try taking a look at her and the situation through a different lens by watching her other videos on her channel and then come back and say there is no other hidden personal agenda there.. Just some food for thought!
The most disturbing thing about all of this was the rabble of people protesting in Australia and the numerous groups who are calling RSD rapists. I don’t care how passionate you are about something, you cannot go around calling someone a rapist if no such thing has taken place. If RSD was guilty of this then by all means name and shame, I’d be right there with you and I’d no longer support them but until you have actual evidence or a testimony from a woman claiming actual rape then calling a man this is just wrong and you know it. Surely you can see at least this point of view.
Anyway I have said my two cents and just wanted to show my support to a community that I still believe has good intentions towards all humans and in particular towards women. If you don’t agree with what I have said that’s O.K I won’t be engaging anyone in a debate as I now have my life to carry on living. As I said in my opening sentence it’s just a shame that now all of PU and the community as a whole is being portrayed in a poor light by the actions of one individual and an angry woman looking for a cause.
Thanks for reading
I would also add that I do think what Sam Pepper does is assaultive because the women clearly tell him no and he continues to violate their boundaries and physical space. These women say no and as you can see in the Sam Pepper videos men jump to women’s aid and start fighting Sam Pepper off. Any rational minded person would have to ask themselves- Why has this never happened with Julien? Why are there no videos of women being alarmed and telling him no? There are videos of him being rejected and he walks away. Why have no men ever jumped to beat him off a woman (despite all of his videos being in public around people who could easily jump to a woman’s aid)? Sam Pepper also has actual rape allegations against him by woman who were the actual victims of what you see in his videos above.
There is video footage of exactly what Julien teaches and the influences on his morbid sense of humor. Again, I do not like the glibness around such sensitive topics, but I do not think we should send the Gestapo or KGB after everyone who says things are offensive. It should be clear that Julien does not mean the inflammatory things he says or writes, and anyone who believes that he does has simply not seen the full context of his work: http://g00.se/real-truth-behind-julien-blanc/
Peace, love, and joy to men, women, and dissenters as well,
Abe
I can unfortunately believe the number of apologists on this page. I can believe men come here, attempting to justify their use of such courses and the methods. I can believe they know exactly what they’re doing and what they’re signing up for.
That is because there is a fundamental belief that has been instilled to a not insignificant portion of the population that;
1. Men have a right to have their sexual needs met
2. this justifies behaviours including assaulting/harming women into it or buying women’s bodies (prostitution/pornography)
3. Because they have this ‘right’, their attempts to justify this behaviour or help others qualify not as hate-speech or insighting violence, but ‘free speech’.
Finally, why is it that saying the same things about assaulting those of a religious faith or an ethnic group or a sexual orientation is intolerable, but when it is done to women, it is not illegal?
this guy is teaching men to rape woman… fuck
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wdipRFDlzOk#t=162
No one is talking about the elephant in the room and that is the influence and role modelling of limitless internet porn that is becoming increasingly extreme. Interestingly, the RSD site does mention it – as an ideal way to behave with women.
We have a significant number of young men who have come through puberty and into manhood hiding alone in their basements and bedrooms masturbating to computer images of violent and demeaning sexual images of women. Instead of their adolescence being used to learn how to socially interact with women, they’ve developed a skewed reality of who and what women are. These guys have become sexually and emotionally crippled, not much further advanced socially than what they were than when they retreated. Now they want relationships and are terrified because they have no clue.
So along comes Julien Blanc and others of his ilk, and they prey on and exploit these young men already struggling. What they’re teaching is the same style of sexual violence these desperate guys are watching on their computers because it’s all they know. Brilliant though utterly evil in its callous intent.
Here’s a TED talk from a counselor who has some data on what is happening to our young men who overdose on porn and it’s scary as hell. Young men with erectile dysfunction that Viagra and Cialis can’t help because it’s the wiring in their brains, not the physical mechanism of blood flow to the penis, that’s broken.
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/great-porn-experiment-given-tedx
It would be one thing if it was just screwed up men who stayed down in their caves. It’s another when they bring their twisted reality out on the street and assault women as though it’s their right and women should like it. Let me be clear I have no issue with porn itself. I do have an issue with violent porn when it brings harm to men and women outside the entertainment factor.
Reddit has a users group of over a 100,000 (last time I checked) men trying to physically recover from porn-induced erectile dysfunction and the deep social anxiety it has caused in their lives. Of interest, older guys have an easier time recovering their erectile function because they’ve had normal sexual relationships in the past. Young guys have far more difficulty because they’ve only ever masturbated to internet porn so their proper wiring for responding to flesh and blood women doesn’t properly develop. We may laugh at the men in the Victorian age for getting excited over a glimpse of ankle, but their sexual responses were more honest and intense than what a lot of guys are able to achieve with a real woman in our pornified modern society.
Watch the TED talk – but only if you have the courage because it’s freakin’ scary. And just for the record, neither the speaker nor I have any religious leanings. This is about mental and physical health of young men whom we care about. It should matter to all of us.
Seriously…you find one (1) example of some psychopath writing about how women want to be raped on some online forum and that characterizes all the rest of the people who go there as psychopathic rapists ?
Really ?
Really ?
I mean maybe you guys should stop writing blogs and go to a journalism school. You might get some idea about writing something coherently intelligent instead of being a mini TMZ/tabloid. Do you know even how to make an argument or just spam twitter about the first thing that comes in your head ?
Do you know wtf is a rape van btw ? It is a cultural american joke. Do you guys know what a joke is ? Oh it is something that people laugh at and it isn’t supposed to be taken seriously let alone *hurt* people or *hurt* women. The reality of this “rape van” discussion is that some sex obsessed person went and got a van to have consensual sex in and that was that. Do you guys know what consensual sex means ? It is in which there’s no force ever needed. etc. etc.
Anyway, enough ranting. Please write something coherent and non-sensationalist if you actually care about what’s actually going on.
Hopefully this post made you some money off google ads.
>If you are a young man seeking advice, then don’t get it from Real Social Dynamics. There are proper counselling services out there, if you can’t get good advice from mates, or asking your mum (yes, put embarrassment aside for a few minutes, she has advice for you), or even a girl who you are just friends with.
Do you have any example of proper counselling services?
I am 27 and I was never in any kind of romantic relationship. I have never even considered PUA stuff, because what they sell really does not seem to relate in any way to what I am looking for, i.e. a reciprocal, respectful, tender relationship with one person that would actually love me (even if that means changing and improving myself), as opposed to just tricks to “getting laid” with random people by projecting a fake image of who I am and making them believe in it. I have always been very uncomfortable and shy about the subject, so I have never really spoken about it with my friends, and especially not with my mother. Since I have felt increasingly lonely and inadequate recently, I have started to open myself to some very good friend of mine, and while she was very busy with finishing to write her thesis for her PhD defense in the last months, she will have much more time to help me with advices now, but I would still be interested in any other proper counselling services you could introduce me too.
Thanks in advance.
@Anonymous
they are not advocating changing who you are at your core they are stopping bad habits that lessen your chances with the opposite sex. they are advocating being natural. a lot of it is just confidence and throwing your self into social situations.there are a lot of socially akward men out there that want to improve their social skills ,you can develop cultivate any skill in life in a manner that suits you thats why its called p u artistry
This blog is well written commentary about a group that represents a disturbingly common and disgustingly mysoginistic view of women.
I have had random men flop out their penises (they only had one each, but clearly they’re dick heads, so the jury is out on that one).
One found the experience of having a full jug of beer slammed down on to his genitals caused him to scream like a pig and cry.
On another occasion as I was face to face with another penis in a public place, said owner found himself crash tackled into a pot belly stove that subsequently collapsed and set his shirt alight, thus causing the emission of another porcine squall.
Whilst these outcomes amused me, the action that caused them angered me immensely. The nerve of these guys thinking that it was an appropriate pick up method. Worse still was the fact that on the first occasion a girl defended the guys actions.
I look back on these incidents and the many unwanted gropes (which I usually returned with a knee, elbow or bucket of ice), and wish of been bold enough to report those lovers. We must teach women to take action when the boundaries of decency are crossed, and more importantly, raise decent men.
I want to say something quickly about women “laughing” while being harassed – now I don’t know if the women in the video were genuinely amused or if they were doing this:
Many women laugh when harassed or assaulted because it’s safer. We don’t know what you’re planning, we don’t know what you might do to us, so to placate you and keep the situation safe, we smile and laugh. We don’t want to make this random, worrying, scary man angry because we don’t know if it’s safe to do so. Is it safe to get up and walk away? Maybe, maybe not. It’s a risk.
Laughter is also a known nervous reaction.
What I’m saying is the women in the video who are laughing and smiling aren’t necessarily amused or enjoying themselves, they may be having a nervous or fear reaction.
@Anonymous – I recommend you find a qualified, trained counsellor (not a PUA, but a counsellor). Not knowing where you live, I can only suggest that your local university may be an option (and they’re often provided free to students).