I can see an extra issue here that wasn’t explicitly mentioned, although I’m sure Melinda meant it when she said to be careful who you trust: the photos in question were not necessarily on the net in the first place. The men in the group have to post the facebook photo and details but the raunchy photo is not necessarily one of the ones the woman has on her page. They could just as easily be private ones that the woman in question never had any intention of putting anywhere near the net – or, indeed, doctored ones, as the techno guy suggested. It seems we now have yet another item to add to the cautious woman list – do not take or allow to be taken any compromising photos of yourself.
Sounds sensible enough – as long as you never get drunk, or pressured by a boyfriend, or have a wardbrobe malfunction in the presence of a mobile phone. It used to be that only people running for public office had to worry about their past turning up to haunt them. Now, apparently, all you need to be is female – and hot, I suppose.
Seems we are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea in these parlous times. If you aren’t hot, according to narrow, pornified standards, then you are at best invisible and at worst, dispensible. And if you are, you are asking to be seen and used as an object for male titillation – and if you object, you’re a man-hating, humourless bitch.
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I can see an extra issue here that wasn’t explicitly mentioned, although I’m sure Melinda meant it when she said to be careful who you trust: the photos in question were not necessarily on the net in the first place. The men in the group have to post the facebook photo and details but the raunchy photo is not necessarily one of the ones the woman has on her page. They could just as easily be private ones that the woman in question never had any intention of putting anywhere near the net – or, indeed, doctored ones, as the techno guy suggested. It seems we now have yet another item to add to the cautious woman list – do not take or allow to be taken any compromising photos of yourself.
Sounds sensible enough – as long as you never get drunk, or pressured by a boyfriend, or have a wardbrobe malfunction in the presence of a mobile phone. It used to be that only people running for public office had to worry about their past turning up to haunt them. Now, apparently, all you need to be is female – and hot, I suppose.
Seems we are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea in these parlous times. If you aren’t hot, according to narrow, pornified standards, then you are at best invisible and at worst, dispensible. And if you are, you are asking to be seen and used as an object for male titillation – and if you object, you’re a man-hating, humourless bitch.